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The one and only time I got the fortune cookie -
"in love you could shine like a brilliant star" - the words burned into me.
I had not loved like a brilliant star. Loving didn't come easily to me.
Thinking came easily. But loving. No. Hard to reach out. And also hard to feel strong
intense flowing love.
And yet the words burning and burned in me. Something in me went,
yes I could do that, I know that deep down somewhere I have it in me to do that.
It's been years. I'm still not an expert on loving. But I still like that fortune cookie.
And loving and also grieving have changed my life, over and over.
So what is Dr Zee's loveline about, if not inspired words from an expert on love?
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Maybe you have a love problem
and I have some idea about potential solutions.
Or maybe I have some thoughts on love and caring - or on shame and anger -
or on anything to do with relationships and relating -
and you want to add your thoughts.
With a problem, of course the solution may not work,
maybe not for you, or not for me, or not for anyone.
And with the thoughts, there's going to be
no attempt to get to any
final definitive answer.
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More: the LoveLine is part of huge worldwide changes.
The world over, something's happening in the area of personal development,
personal growth, self-exploration, self-awareness, self-knowledge.
It's as big as anything that's happening with technology.
It has to do with science.
Science: if we add two plus two, we get four,
time after time.
Science: that's how we get the technological breakthroughs -
through checking things out, coming to new speculations and theories,
and going on from there.
It's
also through science -
exploration, experience, observation, analysis -
that we're learning how to make things better
between people, time after time.
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My
starting point:
this is an area where I'll never stop learning.
I'm not the expert, but I've gotten both lots of knowledge
and several tons of experience.
Another starting point: this is an exploration,
a foray, into areas I care about and keep learning in.
In fact, in general, what I find most interesting is something I'm exploring,
as opposed to something where I'm a know-it-all-
something where there is room for surprise, for spontaneous and sought-for insights.
So, once again, these are not words from on high, but words from an explorer.
Today, a line from a famous poet came into my mind:
I took the road less traveled
and that made all the difference.
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Lifelong learning - the heart of the LoveLine
I read of a study a few days ago, a study done on a group of nuns.
The finding:
those with the greatest flexibility of thought when young
were the most mentally awake, alert, with it, as old women;
those with narrower thought patterns, narrower interests,
narrower ways of speaking were the most likely to be senile
(probably no longer an okay word).
I know it isn't that simple.
Brilliant people - novelists, filmmakers, researchers -
have been struck by Alzheimer's
and every other form of age-related mental disability.
But the study gave me hope - because I want to be able to continue,
in my mind, in my life, in everything, on roads less traveled, new paths, explorations.
And there is very little I find more interesting than warm loving.
Loving is a lifeline. Loving - lifelong learning, living. Love - something we need to flourish.
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So this is Dr Zee, holding onto a love line while exploring,
and holding out the love line to you.
Dr Zee
November 5, 2006
Newest:
Shamed Half to Death
More:
To go from Dr Zees LoveLine to
How to Keep the Love Light Burning, click here.
To go to
What to Do When Anger Comes At Us, click here.
Ingredients of Good Caring,
including Knowledge, Consistency,
Trustworthiness, Loving Feelings
Caring:
The Need for Good Loving Priorities
What Do We Really Want, Need?
The opening up above, by the way, was my third foray into writing
about what I'm planning to do in the LoveLine.
I'm someone who likes to keep a record of how things evolved.
So below are the second and then, even further below,
the first attempt.
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SECOND ATTEMPT - I AM MOVING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION:
You
have a love problem. I'll try to suggest a potential solution.
Of course, I may not be able to.
And the solution may not work,
or anyway, may not work for you -
or you may not like it, or may actually not want a solution.
But that's not the main thing.
The main thing:
one of the biggest things happening in this world right now
has nothing to do with technology,
and everything to do with self-exploration,
self-knowledge and personal changes.
Science is, maybe surprisingly,
right in the middle of things for both technology
(cars, computers, rockets, indoor plumbing)
and self development
(dreams, behaviors, self awareness).
Science: if we add two plus two, we get four, time after time.
Science: we are learning how to make things better between people,
time after time.
My starting point:
this is an area where I'll never stop learning.
Dr Zee
October 2006
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FIRST ATTEMPT - A QUICK STARTING POINT
You
have a love problem.
I'll try to find a solution.
Of course, I may
not be able to.
And the solution may not work, or anyway, may not work for you.
But one of the biggest things happening in this world right now
has nothing to do with technology,
and everything to do with self-exploration and self-knowledge.
Science is, maybe
surprisingly, right in the middle of things
for both technology (cars, computers, rockets, indoor plumbing)
and self-exploration.
Science: if we add two plus two, we get four, time after time.
Science: we are learning how to make things better between people,
time after time.
My
starting point: this is an area where I'll never stop learning.
Dr
Zee
February 2006
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publishing house - FlufferDuff Impressions 2006, 2011
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Dr
Zees LoveLine
(correctly written Dr. Zee's Love Line)
Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe a lifeline, a hopeline.
Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe a lifeboat, a raft, a life buoy when the going
is a bit rough.
Dr Zees LoveLine - we all can use a helping hand sometime,
and just maybe Dr Zees LoveLine can give a helping hand,
rather than a kick in the pants -
though sometimes a good swift kick in the pants
can also be useful
if we're not doing our best,
not trying over and over -
instead maybe hiding our heads and eyes and ears from loads of evidence.
But back to Dr Zees LoveLine -
"in love you could shine like a brilliant star" -
well, maybe you could and maybe you couldn't,
but most, there are no guarantees here, no promises,
just suggestions at best.
.easier to get ideas through to people, for me at least,
than to get more love going.
Dr Zees LoveLine - a try to get more warmth, compassion,
loving feeling going.
"We've lost that loving feeling," goes one song.
Too bad when that happens.
How to get more loving feeling, good loving feeling not
with angry hate stripes running through it,
or so much fear that it hardly gets out, fear of seeming foolish, fear
of reaching out -
big questions.
Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe love isn't all you need, but
love is a good part of it.
Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe there's something in it for
you.
My big hope - that there's something in it for me.
So much of my life I have longed for more love, most
of all for more loving feeling in me,
for things like falling in love, heart melting open wide, heart breaking
open wide -
not easy for many of us -
not easy for my mother, abandoned by her mother,
not easy for her mother, who lost her own mother to death at seven months,
not easy for me, though I have felt it,
and have felt loss,
and have always felt -
the love was worth it.
Love, such an amazing feeling.
Dr Zees LoveLine -
recipes for that loving feeling -
but no promises, no guarantees.
Dr Zees LoveLine - part of my own life line.
signed,
Dr Zee
September 30, 2006
copyright © Elsa Schieder 2006, 2011
publishing house - FlufferDuff Impressions 2006, 2011
DR ZEES LOVELINE
love liking longing aching wanting desiring having holding caring *
hate anger rage outrage disgust * disconnection boredom *
relationships relating * narcissism self-involvement blindness *
shells * spells * jealousy *
caring empathy passion intensity compassion *
happy love relationships * love relationship problem *
relationship problem help *
good caring * love relationship problem,
resolving relationship conflict * relationship problem
self-expression self-knowledge *
blocks walls stalls shells inner spells *
fear * fear as weapon *
human possibilities and limitations *
* hurting others * loss grief sorrow *
elevation * admiration * elation *
loving longing lusting *
connections interconnections *
terror dread horror anguish *
elevation * admiration * elation *
happy love relationships *
love relationship problem *
relationship problem help *
connections interconnections *
connections to social issues
like prejudice, fundamentalism, terrorism, genocide, peace *
DR ZEES
LOVELINE
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