I really need him. I love him. Please help.

by Prerna Batta
(Patiala, Punjab, India)

I love a guy. He is my relative. Our families want us to get married after our studies are over. I really love him a lot and I had expressed my love to him. He had accepted it. He had a girlfriend and he himself had told me about her. After 5 days of our affair he said that he is unable to forget his girlfriend. I said ok you can take your time. After a few days he apologized and said that he loves me.

The very next morning he told me that he had seen a dream that due to some reasons we don’t get married and your cousin gives a divorce to your sister. I can’t continue with you because it will create a big problem if someone comes to know about us before marriage.

I understood him. Now we talk as friends but I really love him and want him back.

Please help me. He still talks to his girlfriend but I don’t have any problem with that. I just love him. He is my dream man. I don’t understand that if can talks to me as a friend then why not as a lover. I want him back and as early as possible. Thanks.

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Love. Very tough, often a lot of heartache. It sounds as if he can’t have the woman he wants most, but that he also has mixed feelings. He has said he loves you, but then had a dream. So it sounds a lot as if, for the moment anyway, he loves the other woman more.

Will you get him back? Maybe. Love is often very confusing and difficult. Things change a lot, though.

Is there any help I can suggest? Sometimes music touches us, helps us with our feelings. Sometimes time changes things. Sometimes also if we pay attention to other things, like our studies and friends, it is easier for us.

What will happen next? What has already happened? I don’t know. Sometimes we can’t get someone we want – and then the important thing is to know that there is someone else for us.

In terms of that, what makes it more difficult is that your families want you to get married. So maybe you will get him.

All the best.