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Here: one secret to an anger cure,
to healing anger feelings, the causes of anger,
the roots of anger.
April 18, 2010
STOP ANGER FAST, CURE ANGER?
one person's secret to healing anger
It all started with an email - someone writing that he's found, in thousands of cases of anger, always one root.
That got my attention - anger is big in my family, in my life. Sometimes it seems to disappear, and I may even think it's gone for good. Then like a magic dragon, it makes another powerful appearance - and may even move in, like a permanent unwanted guest.
It's cost me a lot. My story is here, in the video - bits of it anyway, three times over showing the email did pinpoint a very powerful root of anger. Below the video is a bit of thinking on anger and a link to more information on healing anger.
Maybe you watched. Maybe you just want the secret.
So, first, the name of the person who sent me the email. Morty Lefkoe. Then, his finding: in the thousands of people he's treated for anger, every time the root was a sense of powerlessness. The treatment: eliminate the false belief at the root of anger, the belief in one's powerlessness.
Where to find the treatment? With Morty, of course, with a simple technique that I've used for various limiting beliefs, and have found powerful. In fact, I found the technique powerful enough that I want to share it. And it takes just 30 minutes.
Here I'll just give a bit more thinking about anger.
Anger - it was such a mystery to me in my childhood. I couldn't stop it, no matter how much i wanted. What was the cause of anger? Were there lots of causes of anger? I didn't care. I just wanted an anger cure.
Healing anger - could it happen? Not in my childhood. My father didn't want to get angry. My sister didn't. I didn't.
Coping with anger meant trying to push it down, meant believing it wouldn't come back, meant resolving not to get angry.
Anger causes? I believed they had to do with something wrong in me.
Anger feelings were so unwanted, yet so everyday. Anger frustration resentment - and then guilt and shame about getting angry.
The psychology of anger - that was far from my 8-year-old mind.
I felt so powerless over anger - never thought that my anger could come from a sense of powerlessness. I wanted anger control - control of my anger and my father's.
Controlling anger - not a great strategy, I've found.
Anger cure - that has been harder to find.
I don't think Morty has the one and only anger cure. Plus I've heard - and experienced - good anger. And then there are actual experiences of powerlessness. But for now, I'll leave all that aside.
I have found other ways to stop anger, by the way. If I can feel sadness, there's likely to be no anger - so the anger is often a cover for other feelings. And if I can feel loving feelings, again those tend to melt anger - unless someone is hurting someone I care about, and I come to anger, but that feels like a a different kind of anger, protective.
Still, for anyone looking for ways for coping with anger, understanding anger, I recommend Morty's method as - at the very least - one more step toward an anger cure. So once again, here's Morty Lefkoe's site.
In fact, in general I recommend not giving up, but trying lots of methods. In my case I've recently been trying lots of body centered methods like meridian tapping.
I don't know how Morty's method quite fits - but it does. It can break the hold of something that should not be there - a false belief.
And that's what I'm after - release from blocks that hold me back from myself.
On a larger scale, as more and more of us do this, the world changes in huge ways.
But now I'm going off on one of my big hopes, the hope for a better world.
There's another big hope - hope of getting to my own happily ever after, or anyway a life with much love and closeness. It doesn't feel like that's asking for much.
I'm not there yet.
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PS. In the video, I give one ultra-awful example of the impact that anger has had on my life. I mention my then-partner. Note: I mention something he did not do, which resulted in my anger. Just to make clear: he is a very hard-working person, and also did not intentionally not do what triggered my anger. A glitch of his fed into a glitch of mine.