From Feeling No Love to Healing the Emotions

If you're living with buried love, it's likely that something in you does not feel right. Likely, you feel a lack of love and are searching for a way to change that. Many of us urgently want to go from a lack of loving feelings to feeling love.

I have 3 things for you:

* 9 FREE QUICK TIPS. For people who have a hard time feeling love, or may even not be feeling love. 9 QUICK TIPS for uncovering the buried love.

* BURIED LOVE: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie. My personal quest to go from longing to feel love, to feeling warm-hearted loving.

* FULL FLOURISHING. The gentle process of ongoing inner change I've developed through my journey. What steps can you take, starting now, to move to a life where love flourishes?

Full Flourishing - with A.C.E. - awareness, caring, engagement

Often people want more than the book. I explored my own process. It's the basis for my core strategy for moving toward what you long for.

Full Flourishing is the model - where we're heading.

But how do you head there? A.C.E. - awareness, caring, engagement - is the simple 3-step process of ongoing inner change I've developed. Using it, it's easy to take small steps, and more small steps, toward what you long for.

If you're not feeling as loving as you'd like to feel, if you want to feel love the way something in you says you could feel it, if you want to live a life where love flourishes, here's your invitation to register for the next FREE webinar.

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If you're living with buried love . . .

You may feel there's something missing within you. You may sense a lack within yourself. Very very likely, you don't love easily or well.

Maybe you fall in love, but then soon after the feeling is gone. Maybe you love only if you're not loved, or if the love is mixed with anger.

You may feel suffocated easily.

Maybe you feel love for your children or your pets - but not for your partner, even if he or she is a great person. If you have a partner, no matter how great your partner is, thinking of your partner may bring up feelings of boredom or irritation rather than happiness or love.

You may long for a feeling of closeness, but have no idea how you could help make this happen. Intimacy - you've read about it much more than you've experienced it.

Maybe you're tired of feeling no love.

Feeling no love, or little love, doesn't feel right.

Maybe you feel ashamed of feeling no love.

You want a solution. There is a solution. There are steps you can take. starting where you are.

My starting point. I know I didn't feel comfortable talking about the lack of living feelings. For me, it meant something was wrong with me. I expected people to turn away.

At the end of a relationship, where so much anger had covered buried love, I came to so much grief and loss. I started to explore and take steps to living differently.

I started to write.

The ebook takes you on my journey

The Beginning - Buried Love

Part Two - Journeys

Part Three - Magical Thinking

Part Four - Some Enchanted Evening

Part Five - Bonds, Buttons, Unbuttons

Part Six - Now

There are so many confessions from all kinds of addicts - heroin, crack, sex, love, grass, alcohol. People hooked on too much of something.

My story is different ...

I'm a love-not junkie. Somehow or other, so long ago that I have no memory of things ever having been different, I got hooked on not loving...

This is what I've lived. Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie comes from my experience of having had a very hard time with love, my long experience of living with buried love, and often feeling no love - and my determination to unbury the loving feelings.

That's what I draw on when I explore:

- How do you come to feel love when your love feelings have been shut down?

- How to go from feeling no love to feeling love?

- How can you heal the emotions?

I started with the deep knowledge, that the loving feelings were there, but buried, trapped, blocked.

I also started with the sense that, if climbers have gotten to the top of Mount Everest, I could turn within and find ways to undo the blocks, so love could flow in my life.

For more of a sense of the book, you can click here to listen to the beginning.

Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie may bring up all kinds of thoughts and feelings. So often books have stirred things within me.

But we may still be left with things as they are within us. That has so often been my experience. I gained from what I had read. It felt like things would be changing, from the increased awareness. But it wasn't enough to change deep-rooted inner stuff.

We may wish for a quick solution. I can't offer a jiffy road map. I've done a lot of looking. I haven't found one.

My long experience. I couldn't find a quick solution to feeling no love, or anyway feeling way less than I longed to feel, dreamed of feeling. On the other hand, lots of changes did happen over time.

A phrase comes to mind: Rome wasn't build in a day.

Likewise we didn't become as we are overnight.

And "inner renovation" - like any renovation - also tends not to be overnight.

Yes, there are breakthroughs.

But often we get stuck.

That brings us to Full Flourishing.

Along my journey I discovered many very different tools and strategies. Body-centered. Talk-centered. Action-centered. From focused on neuro-biology to focused on behavior.

Many of the models and strategies were helpful. But none of the models I found felt adequate.

So I developed my own model of personal development, and also a process of change.

Core to Full Flourishing is a process of taking small steps in a supportive group. You're not alone.

We have so often felt alone, been alone.

The process: A.C.E. Awareness, caring, engagement. You're aware of something - like feeling no love, or shutting down, or fearing being open, or feeling ashamed of being vulnerable. You care. And you engage with small steps that feel right to you.

You can feel the changes, blocks dissolving, one step bringing you to the next. It can be such a wonderful feeling.

Make the decision to do something
about having your loving feelings closed down.

And commit to the decision.

Likely this is something you will need
to decide more than once,
and commit to more than once.

Moving away from feeling no love -
it's not instant.

But the decision can be instant -
and it can be a guiding light.

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My core suggestion: Take a step to go from buried love and often feeling no love, to living a life where loving feelings flow.

There is a very easy step: get the 9 FREE Quick Tips:

An inner journey from feeling no love
to emotional healing,
from buried love to living the meaning of love.
How to love yourself by healing the emotions.

THE STARTING POINT:
Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie.
THE QUEST:
to move from feeling no love,
to open-hearted loving, warm loving.
Often it's a long journey

Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie.
An inner journey from feeling no love to emotional healing,
from buried love to living the meaning of love.

So many question about love,
and about feeling no love.
Buried Love - a personal quest,
the quest of so many of us.
to living fully, flourishing fully.

An inner journey from feeling no love to emotional healing, from buried love to living the meaning of love. How to love yourself by healing the emotions.

THE STARTING POINT: Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie. THE QUEST: to move from feeling no love, to open-hearted loving, warm loving. Often it's a long journey

Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie. An inner journey from feeling no love to emotional healing, from buried love to living the meaning of love.

So many question about love, and about feeling no love. Buried Love - a personal quest, the quest of so many of us. to living fully, flourishing fully.

An inner journey from feeling no love
to emotional healing,
from buried love to living the meaning of love.
How to love yourself by healing the emotions.

THE STARTING POINT:
Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie.
THE QUEST:
to move from feeling no love,
to open-hearted loving, warm loving.
Often it's a long journey

Buried Love: Confessions of a Love-Not Junkie.
An inner journey from feeling no love to emotional healing,
from buried love to living the meaning of love.

So many question about love,
and about feeling no love.
Buried Love - a personal quest,
the quest of so many of us.
to living fully, flourishing fully.