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Caring Emotions, the Heart Of Caring..
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Dr. Zee's Loveline
Love Hate Anger Longing Relationship
Outer Shells Inner Spells
inner ingredient: emotions like empathy, compassion
more ingredients: knowledge, knowing how to care
still more ingredients: healthy priorities
We don't feel cared for, unless there are caring feelings coming toward us. In some nineteenth-century American orphanages, the babies withered away and died. The caretakers couldn't figure it out. The babies were given all the milk they could driink, from bottles propped up on a pillow. The diapers were changed often enough. The babies weren't freezing to death. What more could they want?
One thing they needed was touch. They needed to be held. They needed at least the semblance of caring.
So, emotions - care, warmth, love, liking, affection,
pleasure in the other's company, empathy, sympathy, tenderness, amused
tolerance of the other's foibles, protectiveness. We need those emotions,
at least some of them, at least some of the time.
Emotions - it's so much taken for granted that emotions
are vital in caring, that I don't feel the need to go on - except to
mention once more that all the emotions are not sweetness and niceness.
We may fret, hover, worry, obsess.
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To be continued.
Dr Zees Loveline Explores
Good Caring, Healthy Priorities.