Dr Zees LoveLine
"In love you could shine like a brilliant star."

Message from a fortune cookie. In love you could shine like a brilliant star.
Dr Zees LoveLine explores: how to get good loving, how to do good caring,
how to have less anger and more love?

Keeping the Love Light Burning
by lessening the stockpile of anger
Solution - easier said than done.
Maybe a good starting point is doing our best to keep the baddies out,
and get rid of the baddies that have crept in.

One of the biggest baddies is a storehouse of anger on both sides.
That's great for getting quite some fire going - but the opposite of a love light.
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When Anger Comes At Us
flight, fight, or what?
My first impulse - avoid the anger, ignore it, and maybe give in to it,
usually without spelling out that I've done this. It can be easier to shrug,
"It just isn't worth it."

Next impulse - get angry back, frustrated, furious, irate, resentful. Often that's not very successful in resolving the issue, reaching the other, or getting out of my own anger.
What might work?  
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On Caring
love, empathy, compassion, anxiety, worry, dread, fear, plus
Caring - at least for some of us, it's a core part of a life that has meaning for us. I care -
and I have something to get up for in the morning. I care - and life is full, overfull,
with passion, curiosity, initiative, pleasure. I don't care - life is dull, boring, a drag.
So what, I don't care - I'm sullen, numb, angry, unless there are also things I care for.
I care - I warm up.

Caring connects me. To someone I know - partner, child, friend, family, student.
To someone in an novel, film, news report. To something - an interest, a concern, a passion.
Caring also connects me to myself - I care about my health, future, life, well-being, choices.    
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Caring - Ingredient #1 - Emotions click here

Caring - Ingredient #2 - Being Seen, and Reflected Back  click here

Caring - Ingredient #3 - Good Priorities  click here
RIGHT NOW I AM INCLINED TO THINK THAT THIS
MAY BE THE MOST INGREDIENT IN CARING.
AT THE VERY LEAST, IT IS CRUCIAL. click here

Caring - More Ingredients  click here

What Do We Really Want? Need?
lots of technology, lots of dissatisfaction
We have more things than ever, but that leaves many of us empty.
So what do we really want, need?
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Shamed Half to Death
from a wall of shame to letting go of shame
1 major source of shame, 1 major inner resource to combat it,
and 1 vital external resource.
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Love Problems
sinking relationships, no one-step solutions
Help, love relationship problem! One of the most common cries for help in our society.
Common problem, no easy common solution.
But an approach to problems.
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To be continued,

signed,

Dr Zee


copyright © Elsa Schieder 2006
publishing house - FlufferDuff Impressions 2006

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comments, questions, experiences, more ideas

DR ZEE and her LOVELINE
SHELLS * SPELLS * CARING * CONNECTION * CRAZINESS
love liking hate anger rage disconnection boredom * relationships relating *
narcissism self-involvement blindness * shells * spells * jealousy *
caring empathy passion intensity compassion * self-expression self-knowledge *
blocks * walls * stalls * fear * fear as weapon * human possibilities and limitations *
hurting others * loss grief sorrow * elevation * admiration * elation * loving longing lusting *
connections interconnections * terror dread horror anguish *
perception misperception misconceptions lying deceiving self-deception denial *
recognition joy welcome warmth * craziness * crazy thinking * connections to social issues
like prejudice, fundamentalism, terrorism, genocide, peace *
SHELLS * SPELLS * CARING * CONNECTION * CRAZINESS
DR ZEE and her LOVELINE

Dr Zees LoveLine -
"In love you could shine like a brilliant star."
Message from a fortune cookie.

How do we get the love and good living we know,
deep inside ourselves, is possible?
Explorations, questions, experiences
from on the way to the love life
we've always known is possible.

Click here for Keeping the Lovelight Burning.

Click here the start of an exploration of Caring -
and an invitation to add your own thoughts.

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Dr Zees LoveLine
(correctly written Dr. Zee's Love Line)

Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe a lifeline, a hopeline.
Maybe a lifeboat, a raft, a lifebuoy when the going is a bit rough.
Dr Zees LoveLine - we all can use a helping hand sometime,
and just maybeDr Zees LoveLine can give a helping hand,
rather than a kick in the pants -
though sometimes a good swift kick in the pants
can also be useful
if we're not doing our best,
not trying over and over -
instead maybe hiding our heads and eyes and ears from loads of evidence.

But back to Dr Zees LoveLine -
"in love you could shine like a brilliant star" -
well, maybe you could and maybe you couldn't,
but most, there are no guarantees here, no promises,
just suggestions at best.

Easier to get ideas through to people, for me at least,
than to get more love going.

Dr Zees LoveLine - a try to get more warmth, compassion, loving feeling going.
"We've lost that loving feeling," goes one song.
Too bad when that happens.

How to get more loving feeling, good loving feeling not with angry hate stripes running through it,
or so much fear that it hardly gets out, fear of seeming foolish, fear of reaching out -
big questions.

Maybe love isn't all you need, but love is a good part of it.

Dr Zees LoveLine - maybe there's something in it for you.
My big hope - that there's something in it for me.

So much of my life I have longed for more love, most of all for more loving feeling in me,
for things like falling in love, heart melting open wide, heart breaking open wide -
not easy for many of us -
not easy for my mother, abandoned by her mother,
not easy for her mother, who lost her own mother to death at seven months,
not easy for me, though I have felt it,
and have felt loss,
and have always felt -
the love was worth it.

Love, such an amazing feeling.

The LoveLine -

recipes for that loving feeling -
but no promises, no guarantees.

Dr Zees LoveLine - part of my own life line.

signed,

Dr Zee
September 30, 2006


copyright © Elsa Schieder 2006
publishing house - FlufferDuff Impressions 2006

love liking longing aching wanting desiring having holding caring *
hate anger rage outrage disgust * disconnection boredom *
relationships relating * narcissism self-involvement blindness *
shells * spells * jealousy *
caring empathy passion intensity compassion *
self-expression self-knowledge *
blocks walls stalls shells inner spells *
fear * fear as weapon *
human possibilities and limitations *
* hurting others * loss grief sorrow *
elevation * admiration * elation *
loving longing lusting *
connections interconnections *
terror dread horror anguish *
elevation * admiration * elation *
connections interconnections *
connections to social issues
like prejudice, fundamentalism, terrorism, genocide, peace *

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