Dr Zees LoveLine on Good Caring,
Letting Go of Shame, Anger,
Active Imagination, Rekindle Relationship.
Fortune Cookie: In Love You Could Shine Like a Brilliant Star.
Just Imagine That!
the power and perils of an
It's not just make believe.
Keeping the Love Light Burning
by lessening the stockpile of anger
Solution - easier said than done.
Maybe a good starting point is doing our best to keep the
and get rid of the baddies that have crept in.
One of the biggest baddies is a storehouse
of anger on both sides.
That's great for getting quite some fire going - but the opposite of a love light.
When Anger Comes At Us
flight, fight, or
My first impulse - avoid the anger,
ignore it, and maybe give in to it,
usually without spelling out that
I've done this. It can be easier to shrug,
"It just isn't worth it."
Next impulse - get angry back, frustrated, furious, irate, resentful.
Often that's not very successful in resolving the issue, reaching the
other, or getting out of my own anger.
What might work?
love, empathy, compassion,
anxiety, worry, dread, fear, plus
Caring - at least for some of us, it's a core part of a life
that has meaning for us. I care -
and I have something to get up
for in the morning. I care - and life is full, overfull,
curiosity, initiative, pleasure. I don't care - life is dull, boring,
So what, I don't care - I'm sullen, numb, angry, unless there
are also things I care for.
I care - I warm up.
Caring connects me. To someone I know - partner,
child, friend, family, student.
To someone in an novel, film, news
report. To something - an interest, a concern, a passion.
connects me to myself - I care about my health, future, life, well-being,
Caring - Ingredient #1 - Emotions click
Caring - Ingredient #2 - Being Seen, and Reflected Back click
Caring - Ingredient #3 - Good Priorities click
RIGHT NOW I AM INCLINED TO THINK
MAY BE THE MOST INGREDIENT IN CARING.
AT THE VERY LEAST, IT IS CRUCIAL. click
Caring - More Ingredients click
What Do We Really Want? Need?
lots of technology, lots of dissatisfaction
We have more things than ever, but that leaves many of us empty.
So what do we really want, need?
Sad Blank Faces
Wants vs Needs
The Words Say It All
Shamed Half to Death
from a wall of shame to letting go of shame
1 major source of shame, 1 major inner resource to combat it,
and 1 vital external resource.
sinking relationships, no one-step solutions
Help, love relationship problem!
One of the most common cries for help in our society.
Common problem, no easy common solution.
But an approach to problems.
To be continued,
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Click here for Keeping the Lovelight Burning.
here the start of an exploration of Caring -
and an invitation to add your own thoughts.
"In love you could shine
like a brilliant star."
Well, maybe you could and maybe you couldn't,
but most, there are no guarantees here, no promises,
just suggestions at best.
So much of my life I have longed for more love,
of all for more loving feeling in me,
for things like falling in love, heart melting open wide,
The LoveLine - for fuller living.
Dr Zees LoveLine - part of my own life line.
of Dr Zees LoveLine
September 30, 2006
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