Buried Feelings, Buried Love. How to Love Yourself? How to Reach Emotional Healing? An Inner Journey on How to Find Love, How to Feel Love of Self and Others.
Buried Feelings, Buried Love. How to Love Yourself?
How to Reach Emotional Healing?
An Inner Journey on How to Find Love,
How to Feel Love of Self and Others.
#4 ... I feel sadness for how I have lived with others - and with myself. Sadness for the loss of so much time, so much love, so much possibility, years of unlovingness.
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#5 - April 8, 2010
I think of findings about alcoholic families - that most of the children are traditionally seen as having no problems, as emerging unhurt by their families.
The responsible one takes care of things.
The placater takes care of feelings.
The adjuster goes with the flow.
The clown takes care of trouble.
Only the rebel is seen as hurt.
Now I'm wondering - not just in alcoholic homes, but in many homes - how many people grow up to live with unlovingness, with buried love, buried feelings?
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I know my mother did. These last few years, over and over she's said - until memory loss eroded this - that she believes she just can't love.
I understand. She takes care of. But loving feelings got buried. Are they dead? Or just so deep down they've never had the chance to get a breath of air.
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I think of a book that, as the saying goes, just blew my mind. Facing Shame.
Shame - I hadn't thought of that emotion - and then so much erupted in me, the enormity of the sense of shame I've lived with.
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Unlovingness - that can't erupt in the same way. It's a dead zone. Blankness. So it can't erupt. It's love that can erupt.
And sadness, that has somehow managed to erupt at times - and that can wash away tiny bits of what's covered the love.
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JOURNEY
A long time ago someone wrote about taking the road less traveled ...
Buried Feelings, Buried Love. How to Love Yourself?
How to Reach Emotional Healing? An Inner Journey on How to Find Love,
How to Feel Love of Self and Others.