Caring
Ingredient #1 - Emotions

We don't feel cared for, unless there are caring feelings coming toward us. In some nineteenth-century American orphanages, the babies withered away and died. The caretakers couldn't figure it out. The babies were given all the milk they could driink, from bottles propped up on a pillow. The diapers were changed often enough. The babies weren't freezing to death. What more could they want?

One thing they needed was touch. They needed to be held. They needed at least the semblance of caring.

So, emotions - care, warmth, love, liking, affection, pleasure in the other's company, empathy, sympathy, tenderness, amused tolerance of the other's foibles, protectiveness. We need those emotions, at least some of them, at least some of the time.

And then we say, I feel cared for. We may also say, I feel at home. Often we feel safe, secure, at ease, at one. When we are well cared for, emotionally, we are safe emotionally.

We may put down roots when we care, and when we feel cared for.

And we may blossom.

Emotions - it's so much taken for granted that emotions are vital in caring, that I don't feel the need to go on - except to mention once more that all the emotions are not sweetness and niceness. We may fret, hover, worry, obsess.

Caring
Ingredient #2 - Being Seen, and Reflected Back  click here

Caring
Ingredient #3 - Good Priorities  click here
RIGHT NOW I AM INCLINED TO THINK THAT THIS
MAY BE THE MOST INGREDIENT IN CARING.
AT THE VERY LEAST, IT IS CRUCIAL. click here

More Ingredients  click here

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To be continued.

signed,

Dr Zee
October 2006

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