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Define Narcissism:
4 key traits to the narcissistic personality.
Define Narcissist, Narcissist Definition:
the narcissist has grandiosity, lack of empathy,
need for praise, and rage - rage especially
when the grandiose self image is disputed.

He's a Narcissist, She's a Narcissist -
just what does that mean, actually?

 

I've kept hearing people throw around the terms, narcissist, narcissism, and I had a vague sense of what they meant. But ask me to define narcissism, define narcissist, and I really didn't know.

I just knew that it was bad to be a narcissist, most people were narcissists, and narcissists were somehow too full of themselves. "She's a real narcissist."

I also, long ago, read a great book by Reuben Fine in which he presents god as the ultimate narcissist - because (if I remember right) god made people in his image and because he wanted praise.

So what is a narcissist? Just how to define narcissism? I went on the web.

Narcissism:

psychological personality disorder characterized by grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy. Narcissism, formerly known as megalomania, occurs in a spectrum of severity, but the pathologically narcissistic are extremely self-absorbed, insensitive to others’ needs and indifferent to the effect of their own egocentric behavior. There is a growing body of research indicating that aggression is closely associated with narcissism.
         You can read more here about narcissism here.


As for the narcissist, I found a whole list of ways to identify the narcissistic personality. Define narcissist. Narcissist definition. The narcissistic personality. The narcissist. There are pages upon pages of choices:

# Her situation is always worse than yours. Even if you're very ill, her trauma of being the loving mother of an ill daughter is worse than yours of being the ill person.

# She cannot accept ANY criticism, no matter how mild. She'll erupt in Narcissistic Rage if you try it. This makes dealing with a Narcissist a hugely difficult endeavor.

# She won't change.
       You can read more about narcissistic personality traits here.

Whatever source your turn too, a similar image emerges of the narcissistic personality:

define narcissism, define narcissist and the narcissistic personality define narcissism definition narcissist define narcissism, definition narcissist

The malignant narcissist emerges as just a notch about the psychopath. According to wikipedia, psychopaths are grandiose, distort reality, contemptuous of others, without conscience." But malignant narcissists "have the capacity to admire powerful people, and can depend on sadistic and powerful but reliable parental images."

Malignant narcissists, in contrast to psychopaths, are also said to be capable of developing "some identification with other powerful idealized figures as part of a cohesive 'gang' ... which permits at least some loyalty and good object relations to be internalized." Malignant narcissism is highlighted as a key area when it comes to the study of mass, sexual, and serial murder.
       You can read more at wikipedia.

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Not a pretty picture. But important to understand if you are trying to create either social change or personal change (your own personal change as well as that of others).

Social change: each time people ask for a very reasonable social change in favor of those lacking rights, there is rage. When women agitated for the right to vote, they were not greeted with, "Well, of course. Sorry we overlooked that." Rage, outrage, horror, disdain. The anti-slavery movement and later the Civil Rights movement were similarly not met with, "Oh, so sorry. We just didn't realize that blacks were equal." Rage, outrage, violence - even a Civil War in the United States to keep slavery.

In general, when one group lacks rights, this means that, by and large, the other group is narcissistic - that is, it has a grandiose self image as superior to the other (or it would have given the rights).

Narcissism also carries over to religion. Reuben Fine was writing about the Jewish and Christian god when he considered god the ultimate narcissist. But consider the Muslim vision of their god: those who will not become Muslims are to go to hell forever. Wow! Quite a hostile response to a deity not getting worship!

This is, by the way, exactly like the Catholic deity, as I heard of him in my childhood: all non-Catholics were to go to hell. Anyway that's what the Catholic kids on the street said the nuns told them about all the non-Catholics. We managed to play together anyhow - but it was weird to hear what the nuns were saying. It must also have seemed a bit weird to the kids being told what awaited the rest of us.

Imagine believing that.

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Narcissism doesn't stop with the dominant groups and with gods who demand adoration or else.

Another finding: when the downtrodden gain pride in their group there is another danger: general rage at all the people they see as part of the enemy - which tends to include any members of their own group they consider not angry enough, not proud enough, etc. If you want a vivid example of rage against the "enemy", watch Hotel Rwanda, on the rage of the Hutus against the Tutsis - historically justified, unleashed against everyday Tutsis generations later. Close to a million people massacred.

The downtrodden - religion can add to the self-righteousness, lack of empathy for others and rage. Right now Muslims appear particularly vulnerable to the rage of the righteous - to lack of empathy for Muslims who do not conform to rigid specifications as well as to all non-Muslims. Click here for The Rage of the Righteous - which in fact was the spark for this quest for a definition of narcissism and the narcissistic personality.

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Any final words? Making the world a better place is hard especially because of all the inner workings of humans - such as vulnerability to narcissism.

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Elsa
September 6, 2009

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posted by Judi, Sept 29, 2009:

I found your site and comments regarding deities and narcissistic behavior very informative. I had always thought that regardless of a Jew or Christian or Muslim, that in the end there was still just one god or goddess that was worshipped. I was aware from a similar experience too that some of us weren't going to heaven if we didn't have the same faith. Always knew it was meaningless, but always felt we were all dealing with the same deity. Theologically you may be correct and "others" deity is different.

How very interesting and I will take the time to find out more. Thanks for such an interesting and insightful view.

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Elsa's reply, Nov 2, 2009:

I agree, Judi, that there aren't a bunch of different deities, some sending non-believers to hell, others reincarnating everyone who doesn't attain nirvana, and so on. That doesn't make sense. Another question: just what kind of deity makes sense?

In The Ultimate Reality, I look at a common belief, that all religions are basically the same - even if, according to some, there is a rigid punitive deity, and according to others, there is a loving deity. You might find it interesting. I'd be interesting in hearing your response.

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DEFINE NARCISSISM, DEFINE NARCISSIST: IMPORTANT TO START THERE -
OR HOW DO WE KNOW WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT

DEFINE NARCISSISM: GRANDIOSITY, LACK OF EMPATHY, NEED FOR PRAISE, RAGE

THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY, THE NARCISSISTIC:: GRANDIOSITY, LACK OF EMPATHY, RAGE

DEFINE NARCISSIST: AS ABOVE

MORE ON DEFINITION NARCISSIST: HAS A HARD TIME CHANGING


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Define Narcissism: 4 key traits to the narcissistic personality.
Define Narcissist, Narcissist Definition:
grandiosity, lack of empathy, need for praise, rage.


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The Narcissistic Personality

One of my lifelong concerns has been trying to make sense of reality. What is happening? Why is this happening? Some of the big questions I asked, starting at around age twelve, had to do with why movements which sounded so good could end up doing so many rotten things.

I was twelve. I had a much simpler view of people. I thought change should be easy. I had no idea how many devious aspects there were to our personalities, how good we are at distorting and denying and raging and blocking.

Define narcissism: one part of the definition, over and over, is lack of empathy. A great characteristic if one is going to hurt others and not care, even feel one is right to do this.

Define narcissism: inner lack of empathy, mental blocks against empathy.

Define narcissist: again, one part of the definition is someone who lacks empathy.

The narcissistic personality: grandiosity, lack of empathy, need for admiration and rage.

The narcissist: as above.

And despite all that, we not only try to create positive changes, we often succeed.

Define narcissism, define narcissist, narcissism definition: I'm look forward to the time when we find it hard to find a narcissist.

Elsa
September 6, 2009

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Define Narcissism: 4 key traits to the narcissistic personality.
Define Narcissist, Narcissist Definition: the narcissist has grandiosity, rage,
lack of empathy and need for praise .


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ANALYSIS of WHY THE NARCISSITIC PERSONALITY CAN BE SO DANGEROUS *
IT STARTS WITH THE DEFINITION OF NARCISSISM AND THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY *
DEFINE NARCISSISM: DANGEROUS DUE TO LACK OF EMPATHY, DEMAND FOR PRAISE, RAGE
DEFINE NARCISSISM: DANGEROUS INNER BLOCKS, INNER WALLS, LACK OF EMPATHY *


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